I Believe In Second Chances
It was a beautiful January day, the 17th to be exact. The sun was out, and I might add, although the air was crisp, it was a rather exceptionally warm day for Oregon. In fact, with the warmer weather for this time of year one might question if we would miss our winter season altogether?
Having a little bit of spring fever in the midst of winter, I bundled up a bit, laced up my shoes, plugged in my headphones and headed outside for a little walk. It doesn’t seem all that long ago that the word walk actually would have been run. Perhaps one day again, for today though, I will continue to be grateful for any steps I am able to take.
You see, once upon a time everything came so automatic for me, including walking. But now everything is more challenging, requiring precise, methodical and concentrated efforts from all my bodily systems to work together. So, now every task I do is considered part of my therapy. Right down to writing a simple sentence or listening to music to work on articulating words, vocabulary and word find.
So today, like every day, I will put in my time and work on walking to encourage coordination while making an effort for my gait to possibly recall a rhythm of natural movement. To strengthen my body, as well as my mind and spirit while balancing not over doing it.
It’s a fine line sometimes not to overdue, a very fine line for most of us. Yet, I know I have to do it. So yes just another ordinary day in a not so ordinary life of someone with a mean disease and trying to overcome it. I do what I have to do! I am still me. I am no different than you. I do what we are each called to do in our day. Persevere!
Once I was outside I began heading in one direction only to have something tug at me and encourage me to go the other way. Granted these days everything I do is timed right down to the wire. Including, how long I can be up and out and about, to how long I can push through, to what I need to take with me to nourish my body. So even changing my direction can be a loss of precious energy and even time.
Sometimes I surprise myself. While other times my will to go is stronger than my body which screams, “You can’t make me, no -you can’t make me.” I’ll no sooner get to the end of the driveway only to have to turn back because it’s obvious nothing will work or it’s just too dangerous. Today, I knew my time upright and out and about would be limited so when I made it even a few blocks I was thrilled. Truthfully, no, I celebrated it!!
As I started to turn back towards home, I noticed a small black garden pot on its side in the gravel lying alongside the road. My first thought was one of disgust for the increasing amount of liter I see everywhere anymore but then suddenly my eyes focused in on two tiny little pair of eyes in the pot peering back at me. Kneeling down I realized it was a little young Red Robin who for some reason had chosen to take shelter inside the pot.
Both instinct and intuition told me something was wrong. Most certainly she was hurt. “Oh dear this is not good I thought.” I’m on borrowed time as it is and need to get home. “But, how can I leave her here?” If I do, for certain her fate will be shortened somehow. I said, “God make her spread her wings and fly.” And then, shamefully, “Or, help me close my eyes and walk away.” Okay, well I knew the latter would never happen.
So, I did what I have done many times before when I’ve found an animal lost or hurt. I dialed the non-emergency police number to ask who or what organization might be able to help. “Of course”, replied the dispatcher, “The Audubon Society, let me give you the number.” Brilliant!!
I could feel myself fading fast cognitively and physically so I quickly dialed the number before it left my brain completely. My speech was beginning to slur more and that was a sure sign things were going to change within my body ever more quickly.
The volunteer who answered the phone asked my location, street address etc, and then asked if I could get closer to the Robin to see if she would allow me to pick her up in my hands. I thought to myself, “I don’t think that is a good idea.” You see, among other things, I have no fight or flight myself and if I get spooked that could send me into a crisis and then we’d have a bigger problem than a little birdie on the side of the road. We could have BIG bird Mary lying along side of the road unable to fly (insert silly grin).
But, I obliged and just when I started to reach for her the wee Robin made a wobbly dash out of the pot and plunged head first into a hole about two feet away. There she was, only her little feathered butt sticking up in the air. Poor thing I thought, “Just dandy -surely now she will suffocate to death.”
The volunteer asked me if I would still try to catch her and bring her to the center as they had no one available to come pick her up. I told her, I was really sorry but, I better head home and take care of myself right now. I was just hoping they could send someone to pick her up. I’d never called the Audubon Society before so I wasn’t sure how it worked. Then I let her know that when I got home I’d see if there was a neighbor or someone that could help me.
I made it home, took my medication and laid down for a rest while I pondered what to do or who I could ask to help. I had already noticed while walking up our Terrace that no one seemed to be home. More than likely everyone was out taking advantage of the lovely day and doing something fun. I called and then texted my youngest son who lives nearby but no answer so I knew he must be working.
After a while, I felt a little stronger, went to the garage to find a box, and then sat at the bottom of my stairs by the front door contemplating more about the situation. Knowing time was of essence for the little one, car keys and box in hand I went outside got in the car and proceeded to drive to the location knowing full well I shouldn’t be doing this. Let alone driving for this! I thought the least I could do was to make an honest attempt. And I kid you not, with all my heart I prayed steadily that she would have recovered and been long gone when I got there. Okay, so it was more like chanting, pleading, and begging, “Fly little one fly”.
Finding the location, I got out of the car and pulled on my gloves as I walked across the street and then glanced over at the hole. Amen she was gone. WHEW!
Well, not so fast. A second glance and there she was right at my feet looking up at me. So, I knelt down while trying to sound comforting and told her I was going to help. Honestly, I’m not sure who I was trying to convince more, myself or the bird that all would be well. I said, “I know you are scared, but little one, I am scared too.” Oh, if you only knew the trouble I could get into.
This time though, she didn’t move, she just waited for me to gently pick her up and put her in the box. I then placed her on the passenger seat beside me. Have you ever held a wild bird in your hand? What a priceless, fragile yet beautiful feeling!
I thought okay, if I travel the back road and I can at least make it part way, worst case scenario I’ll call my older son who lives closest to the center to come and finish the trek. Albeit after a little scolding, “YOU DID WHAT MOM?” Surely he will get over it, they usually do? And, if I do make it all the way but can’t drive home, certainly he can still bail me out, or I’ll call a taxi.
I drove ever slowly like one would with precious cargo. At one point the thought crossed my mind, “What if she freaks and somehow gets out through the crack in the box top?” I tried not to entertain the thought of her being miraculously all well and flying around inside the van while I’m driving down the road. Yet, that would be a good thing.
Obviously someone was watching over us, as there were literally very few cars on the road as if someone was paving a clear path for us. I only heard her make a few very faint chirps to which I would reassure her, “Its okay little one, I know your scared, so am I, but together we can do this!”
Well, we made it. A quick look at my watch and I knew I still must hurry. I swung open the door to the center and much to my surprise to a room full of people whose heads turned all at once and were looking at me grasping tightly my little treasure.
As I looked to my right, about three feet in front of me was a handler holding what I think was a Condor or Vulture who immediately when he laid eyes on me spread his wings wide open. It so caught me off guard all I could do was focus on my little box. But he was a big old thing, must have had a span of at least three feet wide or more. And, behind this birds handler was another worker holding an Eagle who also decided it was high time to show off his wing span as well. I thought. “Oh dear, we are all going to be lunch!”
Then about that time, one of the handlers addressed the crowd and said, “Looks like this lady has a little something that may need our attention so we best put these two feathered friends away.” Yes, good idea or you might find me on the floor. I didn’t really say that, but I sure felt seconds away from it.
The spectators left through a back door, and then a third volunteer took the box from me while I filled out some paper work. She asked if I wanted to stay for the exam. I thought, I really shouldn’t but I inquired whether it would take long. She said, “No, you may go outside where there is a viewing window and you can watch while we examine her. Then I will come out and give you our prognosis.”
Outside I stood gazing in the window along with a few parents and children who were also peering through the window looking at all the other animals in the holding cages obviously hoping for a little action.
One of the fathers announced to his children, “Look she has a box.” The children ever so excited replied, “What is it Daddy.” To which he replied, “We’ll know in just a minute.” And then, a vet or handler not sure exactly who was who, lifted my little friend out of the box. A unison of awes echoed outside. The children and well admittedly by this time probably the biggest child of all, me; stood nearly nose pressed against the window as three individuals took their turns examining every inch of her tiny body.
When they were all done one of them came out to let me know they would need to keep her. Nothing appeared broken but they couldn’t tell for sure if something was or if she was just ill. She thanked me for bringing the Robin in, then gave me a card with the wee ones intake number on it and then proceeded to tell me I could call and check on her every day or so to see if she was improving.
And, if she did get well, she asked if I could pick her up and take her back and release her to where I found her. How cool is that? I was already planning ahead who I could make arrangements with to help me do so. The power of positive thinking works wonders you know!
Well, I made it home again safely, and as you might imagine I did call. The first week I called every day just like an anxious Mother Hen. By the second day she was eating. The third day she was responding to the handlers. The forth day she was put on medication and the fifth day she was bright eyed and chirping more, yet still unable to fly. The volunteers told me they would keep doing what they could and now maybe I should try calling once a week as any additional improvement seems to be slow. The big question remained would she ever fly again?
Well, you probably won’t believe what happened next, so if you’re not sitting down, you might like too. Exactly, one week after I found little Robin, I was out working on walking again when I looked down and there was a little yellow bird. I believe a Finch. Is someone toying with me? If so, quite the sense of humor whomever it might be?
Kneeling down I tried to coax her to move but nothing. I thought this just can’t be happening again. I headed back to the house, rested, took my medication, and made a few calls to no avail. Found another box, and prayed like crazy, “Please be well and fly off.” I drove back to the location and phew she was long gone. Thank you Lord!
I continued my calls once a week to the Audubon Society, and finally on the 15th of February she had been placed in an outdoor pending cage trying to acclimate to flying again. They still were not sure whether or not she would, but it was a good sign to be where she was now, and with her other birdie friends.
The morning of February 21st I awoke to chirping and singing out my window. So, I got up and walked over to the window to look outside when there I saw three Red Robins outside my window fluttering and playing and I thought gee I better call the center. Happy Dance! Happy News!
The little Robin had been returned to the location I had found her and was out back in my neighborhood flying around somewhere. She was well! She was able to spread her wings and fly again. WOW!
As I reflected on this experience a few things came to mind. Firstly, I try not to complain much about what I am dealing with in my personal life, but these last couple years have been quite difficult for me. And, in particular the last couple months have found me pretty low at times. Which generally is out of the norm for me, but I am human.
My health situation demands much from me, and I’ve had my work cut out to keep going physically. Having said that, one thing that has always been important to me, beyond doing the best I can each day; is always trying to make something good come out of any difficult situation and finding any joy I can while I am on the journey. So, I share this story with you, for a couple reasons, foremost, because I have always believed in second chances.
I believe in second chances whether it be with offering forgiveness, righting a wrong, mending a fence, or helping to repair or heal a broken relationship. I believe in second chances with finding joy after periods of unhappiness. I believe in second chances with new beginnings and starting over if we hit rock bottom. Yep. I even believe in second chances with finding love again after the unbearable loss of a loved one. And so much, much, more!
Every morning that I wake up, I have a second chance at not only the aforementioned but trying to overcome this God forsaken illness, otherwise known to me as my Goliath which robs every one of my bodily systems from functioning properly.
In fact, each and every one of us is offered a second chance with each new day. A second chance at starting something new, doing something differently and maybe even the things I previously mentioned.
One of the hardest things that I face daily is that many things in my life have had to be continually placed on hold, including some of my goals, and my greatest desires and dreams. To live as though everything is on hold, in anticipation and pending in life, just as my little Robin was in his pending cage, is a very challenging place to be for any one of us. Yet, no matter what we may be faced with these times are more often than not exceptional opportunities for learning and much growth.
I’ve also learned that more often than not during our times of brokenness, whatever that may be; serious health problems, disability, loss or something on a more personal level that we tend to struggle more with what we feel we may have left to offer to others. Maybe even, what our purpose in life may be any longer. I know I do at times.
Yet when I find myself having a wonderful opportunity like I did with this Robin. A beautiful experience which left me feeling as though I’d experienced yet another God-wink on the journey. One that obviously was designed to grab my attention and remind me that no matter what we each face in life and no matter if our life feels as if something is pending; that it is true each one of us is needed.
That each and every one of us no matter our given situation in life, healthy or sick, depressed, lonely, rich or poor, we always have something to offer. That not only are we each an intricate cog in the wheel of life, but we also need one another because it takes each and every one of us working together to keep the wheel of life turning. Or as many say, the circle of life flowing.
I may not be out doing great things, but I can do little things with great love as the very beloved and very wise Mother Teresa once said. And so can you!
More often than not it is during those times when I am at my lowest when something like this experience will happen upon me and whisk a breath of fresh air into me when I needed it most. Which, in my mind makes any suffering I may have to endure more bearable, meaningful, and so worthwhile.
I’m not one to impose any beliefs on anyone else, I just wouldn’t do that. But for me, I know that what holds me upright in more ways than I can count, and what keeps me going, is my belief in something bigger than me which I choose to believe is God.
This wasn’t my first encounter with an animal or even a bird that has proven to lift me up. So, out of curiosity I researched and educated myself a little more about the Red Robin as a bird. And, then being the spiritual being that I am, I decided to look up what the significance of a Robin might be as a spiritual symbol. I can’t help it I’m just a sponge who likes to take it all in while I am here on this earth.
It read, Robin: Stimulation of new growth and renewal in many areas of life. He teaches us that changes can be made with joy, laughter and a song in our heart. The Robin shows us how to ride the winds of passion within our heart and become independent through change. He teaches us how to move forward with grace, tenacity, perseverance, and assertion.
It goes on to say: Are you letting go of personal dramas? One’s that no longer serve a higher purpose. (Funny, right before this happened I had just committed to doing this with a very difficult situation.)
It continues: Are you exercising compassion and patience in mental and spiritual and emotional areas? (I try too!)
And then finally: The Robin will teach how to incorporate new beginnings with faith, and trust in the process. It is time to believe in yourself, and use the inspiration that is given. Listen carefully, it is time to sing your own song for a new period in life force abounds.
All rather intriguing- wouldn’t you say? Well, it sure WOWED me!
The perfect design in our world of the Robin’s return in the springtime after a long winter makes complete sense. The spring offer’s all of us a new beginning, and a new season of second chances with many things. How coincidental too, if you are one who practices a faith which participates in the Lenten season; the forty days observed prior to Easter. A period of time where people are called to reflect and make changes in their personal lives. A time of pending, yet also anticipation for welcoming in new beginnings. And yes, a time which offers all of us second chances in a multitude of ways.
Who’s to say for certain why this experience happened across my path or why these moments do for any one of us for that matter. I can’t be certain of that answer anymore than I can as to why my heart chose to listen to the need for a change in the direction on my walk that day. But, I know what I’m going to choose to believe.
Again, I share this story with you today, not to be an imposition or to solicit any sympathy or pity. Not to draw attention to myself or to my own brokenness.
My sincere desire is always only ever to offer up hope to you during those times you may feel something is pending in your life. To offer you hope in believing in second chances. Whatever those may be, you will fly again!
To remind you that no matter what you may face in life. That just as the changing of the seasons, spring, summer, fall, or winter; some pending times we will experience walking together hand in hand. While other times, we may walk through these periods independently on our own time frame or even someone else’s time frame who may know what’s best for us. And, that during these varied times never ever forget you always have something to offer. I know I need these reminders, sometimes daily. We all do!
Perhaps that little Robin reminded me a little of myself? Or, maybe one of my brothers or sisters on this journey we call life? Who can’t relate to being broken in some way and unable to fly? I can. Who can’t relate to having to take shelter at times? I know I can. And golly who can’t relate to wanting to stick their head in the sand at times? That’s my arm flailing in the air, see it?
I will never know the answers to all the questions in life. And that’s not my job. However, I will do my best to inquire, question and learn as much as I can while I am here. As well as, try to take care of the things around me when I am able or feel called to.
In closing, the one thing I am entirely certain of though is; that my little walk with my Robin friend completely validated for me not only how good it feels and what a blessing it is to be granted a second chance, but just how amazing it feels and how blessed one is when they are able to freely offer up a second chance.
Yes, I believe in second chances, sometimes thirds, fourths, fifths and so on and so on.
My hope is that you do too, and “If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands and never let it go. And if it changes your life, let it.” (Quote -author unknown)
Happy spring!
~Mary M. Vandehey 3.11.14